Wednesday, March 25, 2009


It's kind of becoming more and more surreal that in 8 weeks I will be a Mrs. :) woo hoo!

I'm beyond excited and just want to share something I experienced today.

I was in line at my local post office to purchase the much needed stamps ($ca-ching$) for our invitations - going out soon! There was a lady in line for her passport. She was of Hispanic decent and only knew limited English. She was confused by the "check here: Divorced/Married/Single/Widowed" section of the application. The post office worker explained that she wasn't divorced.... she wasn't single or widowed.... that she was "STILL" married. (quotations for my emphasis).

That one word STILL could mean many things... but I took it to heart. I thought "oh my gosh, how sad that you have to say STILL married, like if she's not going to stay married!" I know nothing of either ladies - the worker, or the customer - but it just made my heart break at our world. That we have to think that something would happen. She could just have easily said "you checked right, you're married" and I think it would've made a world of difference to my ears. But to say you're STILL married means that you don't believe that the marriage (marriage in general) is staying.

do you get what I mean? I believe that marriage is FOREVER!!! God says it is and I know it is. I'm sad to say that our world looks at marriage as a certificate that has an expiration date... breaks my heart. It's like... lets try this out and if in 6 months I feel uncomfortable, I'll just get out!

I'm not trying to say that divorce doesn't happen... it does... I wish it didn't. In some cases it may be much needed for various reasons... but I hate that it has to exist.

I know marriage is hard... but it's definitely something worth fighting for and that I will fight for when it does get hard. This song is a new favorite of mine and D's. Goosebumps EVERY time! It's off of the movie "Fireproof" - if you haven't seen this yet - SEE IT! I highly recommend it and have heard that it is changing marriages and lives all over our country! I LOVED IT!

"Love is not a Fight" Warren Barfield

Warren Barfield - Love Is Not A Fight from PLG Videos on Vimeo.

Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It's a house we answer in
And then commit to never leave

Lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We'll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in the raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave, may God send His angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

To some, love is a word
That they can fall into
But when they're falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do

Love will come to save us
If we'll only call
He will ask nothing from us
But demand we give our all

I will fight for you
Would you fight for me?
It's worth fighting for

Just wanted to share something that was close to my heart to all you newlyweds and soon-to-bes like myself :)



I agree with you 100%! Marriage is a life-long commitment and our society has drifted away from that belief. People view divorce as an easy way out. People become lazy, they don't fight for their marriages or do whatever it takes to make it last.

I understand that there are circumstances in which divorces are appropriate but generally speaking I think people just see it as the easiest way out instead of working to keep what they have. Hollywood is the epitome "if it doesn't work I will just get a divorce instead of trying to work things out" attitude. Oh, I could go on for hours but I will spare! :-)

Great post!


good thoughts, ladies! :)